By which my friend Eleutherios assures me is the Kabbalistic (and poetic) equivalent of Steve Pavlina’s three principles of personal growth; truth (wisdom), love (beauty) and power (strength). This post has been a long time in coming, and in it I’ll explain why in order for me to move towards truth, love and power, I’ve [...]
NLP 101: So Dark The Con Of NLP
Throughout history, NLPers have been hunted down by the Evil League of Anti-NLPers, who have waved the Torches of deBunk (+2 agility) at us and angrily shouted big, big words like ‘pesudo-science’, ‘quackery’ and ‘you’re too hot for NLP’ (I get this one all the time). For every claim for NLP, you can find one [...]
NLP 101: Life Is A Series of Systems
It was confusing; here was this bright, strong young woman who clearly had goals she passionately wanted, but somehow something held her back from going after them. As I worked with her through the roots of her beliefs, I thought we were almost on the way to breaking her limiting patterns and on to action, [...]
NLP 101: There Are No Resistant Listeners, Only Inflexible Speakers
This belief which enabled master therapists like Milton Erickson and Virginia Satir to help people whom other people had labeled ‘hopeless’ is also known as: There are no resistant clients, only inflexible coaches/ therapists/ salespeople/ teachers Also phrased sometimes as: Resistance is a sign of lack of rapport When Lack of Rapport Led Me Resistance [...]
NLP 101: Everyone Already Has All The Resources They Need
Had enough rolling your mind over the Pygmalion effect? Because the next NLP presupposition ties in nicely with it: Everyone already has all the resources they need or the ability to get them which also complements nicely the presupposition that people are not broken. Neuro-Linguistic Programming believes that experience has a structure, and that structure [...]
NLP 101: Experience Has A Structure
The next NLP presupposition is a pretty integral one to making things work with Neuro-Linguistic Programming: Experience has a structure Neuro-Linguistic Programming believes that experience has a structure, and that structure is composed out of 5 senses: visual, auditory, kinesthetic, olfactory or gustatory. And because every experience is composed out of these same building blocks, [...]
NLP 101: You Cannot Not Communicate: The Pygmalion Effect
Something came to me so obviously connected with the NLP 101: You Cannot Not Communicate post that I regret not putting it up. Have you ever heard of the Pygmalion effect? It refers to situations in which people perform better than other people simply because they are expected to do so. In a study conducted [...]