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Have a Blog That Makes an Insanely Great Dent in the Universe

3. August 2006

Before I took the last 2 weeks off from Life Coaches Blog, I was feeling tired, rundown and burntout about blogging: I had amassed more hows, but had forgotten the whys of making a successful Life Coaches Blog. But as I took the time these past 2 weeks to think, I began to remember just what [...]

5 Beliefs of Highly Ineffective Presenters

22. June 2006

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As a half-time wrap up to our NLP 101 series, I thought I’d share with you my recent privilege of watching someone crash and burn on stage In a way, this presenter, I won’t name him so we’ll call him Professor Snuggles, violated every one of the NLP presuppositions I’ve talked about so far. [...]

Own Your Words

8. May 2006

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Words Have Power The words we use can be powerful, and they either give us power or take it away from us. The scary part is oftentimes if you’re not aware of the language you use, you won’t know which is which. One of the quickest ways we lose and gain personal power is just through the [...]

Empathy Before Solutions: Conclusion

29. April 2006

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How will you know when you’re done seeking to understand, and move on to be understood? Here’s the rub: when you’ve really understood, you’d have had to build good rapport with the other person to do that. And when you’re in rapport with someone, you’ll know. It’s helpful to think of a conversation like a dance that [...]

Empathy Before Solutions Part 3

27. April 2006

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In Part 1 I talked about the principle that makes the difference in the quality of communication: seek first to understand, then seek to be understood. In Part 2 I revealed why knowing the principl alone isn’t enough, and the 3 distinct ways you need to know how the prinicple works, and how each area [...]

Empathy Before Solutions: Special Rant for NLP Practitioners

25. April 2006

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This is a special sidenote for NLP practitioners, but if you’re not one, keep out! Out I say! Are you sure you’re one? Still sure? Ok I want to say something especially for beginning NLP practitioners, a lot of whom I know are visiting from the Akltg programs which I help coach (hi guys!). Way back in ‘97 [...]

Empathy Before Solutions Part 2

24. April 2006

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In Empathy Before Solutions Part 1, I revealed the principle that helped me realize what I was doing wrong to piss people off, and helped me gain rapport and coach more effectively. In Part 2, I’m going to focus on what goes wrong when people good-naturedly offer solutions and suggestions to people but somehow the [...]

Empathy Before Solutions Part 1

20. April 2006

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I used to be an asshole. Without really knowing why or how, or even noticing it, I stumbled through most of my teenage and young adult life stepping on people’s toes and hurting their feelings without even knowing it. It wasn’t that I didn’t care. I cared a lot, and I always liked to help people [...]

Proof That Happy People Are Good For You!

19. April 2006

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Kathy Sierra has posted scientific evidence of why building secret rapport with great feelings work! In that post, I detailed a 9 step process to build rapport secretly by making yourself feel wonderful and then extending that feeling to others. In Kathy’s fabulous post; Angry/negative people can be bad for your brain, she talks about scientific [...]

Build Secret Rapport with Great Feelings

6. April 2006

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How would you like to be more attractive, and develop strong rapport with that special someone and feel fantastic at the same time? Reading my friend Kloudiia’s post on her Dating Affairs blog about the 5th secret to your Attractive Quotient made me remember this little visualization that helps you increase good feelings and rapport. Ever been [...]

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Have a Blog That Makes an Insanely Great Dent in the Universe

5 Beliefs of Highly Ineffective Presenters

Own Your Words

Empathy Before Solutions: Conclusion

Empathy Before Solutions Part 3

Empathy Before Solutions: Special Rant for NLP Practitioners

Empathy Before Solutions Part 2

Empathy Before Solutions Part 1

Proof That Happy People Are Good For You!

Build Secret Rapport with Great Feelings

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