Once in a while, I get snarky comments on Life Coaches Blog. Now, criticism can be a good thing when they help me clarify my thoughts and see things from a different perspective. But I’m talking about comments that do nothing but attack what you write without offering anything of value.
To these people I say; what have you created lately?
It’s far easier to destroy something, especially if it’s someone else’s work, then to make something good of your own.
When you commit your thoughts on a public forum like a blog for a couple of years running, I can guarantee you there will be things you write that you’re going to feel embarrassed about much later. It’s a given, in fact, the more you’re committed to personal growth, the more it’ll happen, because the faster your perceptions will change.
But that’s the price you pay for putting yourself out there and I don’t regret it one bit. Far better for me to do, fall on my face and learn making something than to sit back and launch tirades against people.
Imagined Pride is Always Safe
I know that negative mindset well, because it was one of my faults. I have a critical mind, and I used to enjoy poking holes in other people’s work while imaging how much people I could do it. But one day I realized that I was just feeding my ego with fantasies, because my imagined works always have a perfect reception in my head, while doing something for real means I could make mistakes and be wrong.
To stay honest with myself was to align myself with the truth that to earn the right to really criticize someone’s work, I had to prove that I could do it better. If I think someone doesn’t write well, then I should write better. If I think someone doesn’t have a valid point, then I should offer a better point. If I think someone isn’t doing a good job, then I should come up with some suggestions.
Like a saying I’ve heard somewhere goes; ‘what’s missing is what you’re not giving.’
When I started doing this, I realized I was shifting my awareness from looking at negatives to focusing on the positives; not what is wrong but what can I do instead? And that focus away from the irritation, hate and annoyance has led to a much happier place of awareness, possibility and positivity.
Are You Adding to the Mix or Taking Away?
So what are you bringing to the table? Is it something that adds to people’s lives or does it just try to take without giving? If you think you can do better, then get in the game and prove it. The more value you create in the world, the better it will be for everyone in it, myself included.