Comments on: The Cost of Being Right http://lifecoachesblog.com/2008/01/28/the-cost-of-being-right/ Improve Your Life Tue, 16 Mar 2010 14:49:51 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: scarf4eachseason http://lifecoachesblog.com/2008/01/28/the-cost-of-being-right/comment-page-1/#comment-288201 scarf4eachseason Wed, 27 Jan 2010 19:35:06 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/2008/01/28/the-cost-of-being-right/#comment-288201 I loved this article, it fit perfectly with a piece I'm doing.... Do you mind if I quote some of your article on my site- AS YOUR words? Also posting the link to this page? :) Thanks- Red* I loved this article, it fit perfectly with a piece I’m doing….
Do you mind if I quote some of your article on my site- AS YOUR words? Also posting the link to this page? :)
Thanks- Red*

]]> By: I’m Tired of Being Right | Confessing My Dad Attitude http://lifecoachesblog.com/2008/01/28/the-cost-of-being-right/comment-page-1/#comment-288142 I’m Tired of Being Right | Confessing My Dad Attitude Tue, 29 Dec 2009 20:27:46 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/2008/01/28/the-cost-of-being-right/#comment-288142 [...] In seeking to be understood, I often forget to understand the needs, wants, or desires of others.  This is just crazy!  Because the mere principle of this habit automatically makes me wrong. [...] [...] In seeking to be understood, I often forget to understand the needs, wants, or desires of others.  This is just crazy!  Because the mere principle of this habit automatically makes me wrong. [...]

]]> By: karen http://lifecoachesblog.com/2008/01/28/the-cost-of-being-right/comment-page-1/#comment-249779 karen Wed, 10 Sep 2008 20:51:33 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/2008/01/28/the-cost-of-being-right/#comment-249779 Nice piece. Divorce and forced unemployment are two scenarios based in the theory of being right. Nice piece. Divorce and forced unemployment are two scenarios based in the theory of being right.

]]> By: Chris Edgar http://lifecoachesblog.com/2008/01/28/the-cost-of-being-right/comment-page-1/#comment-180389 Chris Edgar Fri, 01 Feb 2008 21:28:19 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/2008/01/28/the-cost-of-being-right/#comment-180389 I like this piece, and I'd add that a technique that's been particularly effective for me in getting over the need to be "right," and the addiction to conflict, is to fully accept my need to be right when it comes up. I just acknowledge it to myself -- "I have a need for fighting, for winning, right now, and I accept that." Resisting or shaming myself for having that need is only another attempt to make myself "right" by prevailing over my unwelcome needs. In the face of my acceptance, usually my felt need to be "right" dissolves. I like this piece, and I’d add that a technique that’s been particularly effective for me in getting over the need to be “right,” and the addiction to conflict, is to fully accept my need to be right when it comes up. I just acknowledge it to myself — “I have a need for fighting, for winning, right now, and I accept that.”

Resisting or shaming myself for having that need is only another attempt to make myself “right” by prevailing over my unwelcome needs. In the face of my acceptance, usually my felt need to be “right” dissolves.

]]> By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker http://lifecoachesblog.com/2008/01/28/the-cost-of-being-right/comment-page-1/#comment-179269 Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker Wed, 30 Jan 2008 21:00:45 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/2008/01/28/the-cost-of-being-right/#comment-179269 Always having to be right is about self-doubt and feeling out of control. I used to do both of those. I often alienated others. Then, though the grace of God, I saw what I was doing. It took me awhile to stop doing those behaviors and the rewards were worth the struggle. Always having to be right is about self-doubt and feeling out of control. I used to do both of those. I often alienated others. Then, though the grace of God, I saw what I was doing. It took me awhile to stop doing those behaviors and the rewards were worth the struggle.

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