Blast from the Past: Best of October 2006
The very best of Life Coaches Blog from one year ago:
How to Stop Worry & Boost Your Personal Power
How do you stop worry and increase your personal power at the same time?
You do it, like the classic prayer above says, by you on what you can change instead of what you can’t, and be aware enough to keep directing your focus in a useful way.
Secrets of Changing Minds: Travel Through Time
To get people to change their state from feeling stressed over a present problem into a positive focus on solutions, I’d ask something like this;
“Imagine tomorrow that you’ve already resolved this problem successfully. How would things look, feel and sound differently?”
Secrets of Changing Minds: The Most Important Key
It’s what you must have from the start and it’s what pulls you through until the end. It’s the simplest key and also the hardest of all. The most important key to changing someone’s mind is just to care.
Not as sexy as giving hypnotic commands, but true.
Stories That Change Lives: Playing On With A Broken String
‘Just as he finished the first few bars,’ the Houston Chronicle music critic recalls, ‘one of the strings on his violin broke. You could hear it snap – it went off like gunfire across the room. There was no mistaking what that sound meant. There was no mistaking what he had to do.’
I agree that a key to self management is self esteem. I would offer that true life inspiration happens when you find something you love to do and make it a part of your everyday experience. Here’s an exercise:
1. Write down 10 things you love to do or that bring you the most joy. I call this the “You List”
2. Then record how many times a day you do one of the things on your list
3. Give each day of the week a rating from 1-10
4. Your best day usually comes out to be the day you do the most things on your “You List”
I can easily relate to the first part of the story, in the past I was one of those people pretending you have done something and then be very uncomfortable when someone asks more detailed questions.
It is not a good feeling and being upfront from the beginning really saves you the embarassment later.