When is Someday?

Let’s see, there’s Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday… but when is Someday?

Show me Someday on the calendar. Point it out to me in your daytimer. How long is a month of Somedays? Even blue moons happen once in a while (second full moon in a month), but Someday? The closest day to Someday is Never.

You think of things like that when you’re in the hospital, filleted like a mackerel and pumped full of really good drugs. As you lie there, having dodged death by a few hours and the services of an outstanding heart surgeon, you start thinking about all the Somedays in your life. And how those Somedays inevitably fade over to Never.

They aren’t very clear thoughts, because you’re not thinking clearly about anything after the ordeal you’ve been through. The clearest thing isn’t a thought at all, it’s a feeling; the feeling that this changes everything and that somehow you’ve got to respond to it.

I don’t advise waiting for open heart surgery to think about Someday. For one thing you might not survive the experience. The time to start thinking about Someday is today.

You need to make a list of your Somedays and convert it into real days. I mean that literally. Sit down and make a list of all the things you want to do someday and start scheduling them.

Don’t worry about how silly or trivial they might sound. Don’t think about how ‘unimportant’ they are. If you genuinely want to do them they are neither silly, trivial or unimportant. Instead start thinking about what you can do to make them real, and realizable. Turn them into real goals with real deadline, just like any other important project.

And don’t feel like a failure if some of the items on your Someday list turn out to be no so attractive when you try them. Some of them undoubtedly will be things that aren’t nearly as important when you try to do them instead of daydreaming about them. That’s fine. But you’d never have known in you hadn’t tried.

In my case my list of Somedays including learning how to cut and polish precious stones and make them into jewelry (both successes), learning to scuba dive (not so successful) and getting back into a club I had left many years ago. I’ve still got some items on my Someday list, but it shrinks year by year.

They say that having regrets is the worst thing about dying. Not having died, I couldn’t tell you. But I can tell you that almost dying with regrets about Someday sucks pretty hard.

Submitted by Rick Cook.

9 Responses to “Fast and Effective Ways for Coping with Stress”

  1. Julie Melillo
    November 9 2008 at 5:50 am #

    I really enjoyed this post. It’s easy to forget how powerful our physical reactions are! I like your approach here. Especially reminding the reader that we are not always ready for change — though we think we are! I agree that the real failure is letting fear stop us. Thanks for posting this!

  2. karen parsons
    November 9 2008 at 6:46 pm #

    Hi Julie,

    Thank you for your kind words. I am glad it was helpful! “Coping with Stress” is a part of a series of articles on Stress that I have written, hopefully Life Coaches Blog will be posting the rest. So keep in touch!

    Kindest regards,

    Karen

  3. Jill R.
    November 10 2008 at 6:55 am #

    This is a great article. I especially like the list of symptoms… some of which a lot of people may not recognize as a sign of stress.

    It’s also important to continue with your stress managment activities even when there are no signs or symptoms of stress. Doing this will help you become stressed less often and ward off stress before it even begins.

  4. karen parsons
    November 10 2008 at 5:48 pm #

    Hi Jill,

    Absolutely, it should be a way of life! Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts.

    Kindest regards,

    Karen

  5. yvonne
    July 1 2009 at 10:36 pm #

    Hi,
    Great site!!!!! Good health is very important with the high cost of medical coverage. We need to have a healther lifestyle by taking care of our health eating and exercising. I am a cancer survivor and I know. Our health is our greatest asset. Keep up the Good Work!!!!!

  6. Rev. Dr. Bush
    January 16 2010 at 1:03 pm #

    The physical body does not differentiate between happy stress and overwhelm. Stress is stress. We need to develop coping mechanisms in our daily life to avoid the harmful, physiological effects of stress.

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