At the deepest level, we all want to be whole. But we cannot experience personal wholeness until we can fully express and integrate our innate masculine and feminine natures.

In Are You Masculine or Feminine? Part I we talked about yin and yang, an ancient but easily understood way to grasp the masculine and feminine relationship. We also defined the masculine and feminine energies and how they must complement each other in a relationship.

But what happens after you develop your inherent masculinity or femininity?

A Man Must Become A Woman

Where do you go after you learn to relax into and express your core essence? To achieve wholeness, you must now learn to embrace your opposite: the masculine core embraces feminine qualities and vice-versa. A man learns how to enhance his relationships, build empathy and express his feelings. A woman learns how to be decisive, powerful and dominant.

In modern society, both sexes already learn to do this to some extent – especially women who have had to step up to the workplace. The key lies in balance and where your energy stays in primarily. A feminine woman who has to be masculine day in and day out will find her core drained, while a masculine man who has to display feminine qualities again and again will find himself emasculated.

Balance Your Masculine & Feminine Forces

Both masculine and feminine energies have their positive and negative aspects. Balanced male energy is assertive and powerful, unbalanced male energy is destructive and ruthless. Balanced female energy is compassionate and tender, unbalanced female energy is moody and vain.

To find balance, you have to answer honestly if you have a masculine or feminine core. An easy way to find out is to look at which energy you are naturally attracted to; the masculine or the feminine and the opposite will be your natural core.

Now look at the balance of masculine and feminine energy in your life; which do you feel needs to be developed more for you to be complete?