How can a person be completely comfortable with being by herself while someone else refuses to be alone even for a minute? Why do some people let themselves be persuaded to do things that are against their own better judgment just to make others happy? And just what is it that makes one person bounce back up from a breakup while another person wastes away?
I’ve discovered that it comes down to a lack of understanding of this one simple fact: that ultimately each and every one of us is completely and utterly alone.
Being the One in Your Life
It’s not just about the fact that there is only one unique you. It’s about the fact that there’s only really one person you have to face in the mirror day in and day out. It’s about the fact that there is only one person you have to answer to and one person whom you have to face when you go to sleep at night.
It’s also about the fact that there has been one person who’s been with you all this while, who has never abandoned you and has been by your side all this time.
The problem is we sometimes treat our friends, family and even our pets better than we treat ourselves. We forget to love ourselves, pet ourselves on the back, recognize our strengths and give ourselves encouragement. If our friends treated us the way some of us treat ourselves, we’d drop them on the spot! Yet some of us refuse to stop being our own worst enemy and start being our own best friend.
You Have to Be Your Own Best Friend
If you want to be happy, healthy and fulfilled, this really isn’t a choice: you have to be your own best friend. How do you treat the people in your life whom you care for the most? You have to treat yourself just as well, giving yourself love and acceptance unconditionally.
That means that when you encounter a setback, you say and treat yourself the same way you’d encourage and treat a best friend. When someone tries to persuade you to do something against your better judgment, you’d know when to say ‘no’ because you honor your own values. And when you need to be your only companion, you feel safe and happy to do so.
You Don’t Have to be Lonely to be Alone
Some people refuse to accept the fact that they’re alone. It can be scary to think that there’s no one truly responsible for you other than yourself. But instead of being a scary realization, it can be a uplifting one: when you being to love yourself and treat yourself with the care and attention you deserve.
And just because you have to travel this path alone doesn’t mean you have to be lonely. While we all have to walk our own walk, we are all on this path called life together.