1) Clutter.
What ever is in your space is taking up your energy, consciously or unconsciously. Think about it, what do those months of unread magazines piling up on your shelves represent? Uncompleted tasks you’ve yet to finish.
If it’s still an open task, it’ll be in your mind somewhere. Stuff that you don’t need or want anymore in your life still weighs you down if you keep it.
2) Blame.
Blaming only makes you the victim. ‘It was all his fault.’ Where in that statement is your ability to act? Blaming takes away your power because they had the power to make things happen and you could had no power to do anything about it.
The opposite extreme of the victim mentality is to blame yourself instead of others, which is often mistaken for responsibility. ‘It’s my fault’ is as good as ‘it’s their fault’ if it doesn’t include a solution for you to act on. Taking responsibility means taking the ability to respond, not to immolate yourself or others with blame.
3) Passivity.
Otherwise known as waiting for things to happen. This is sitting under a tree day after day until the cows come home, waiting for the lottery to strike and bring you the life and riches you’ve always dreamed of…without even buying a lottery ticket.
If you buy a ticket, you’ll stand a very low chance of winning. If you don’t buy a ticket, your chances drop straight to zero. Get off your butt already.
‘One hundred percent of the shots you don’t take don’t go in.’
~Wayne Gretzky
4) Worry.
Working out all the things that could possibly screw up is planning, getting yourself all worked up about it without thinking of solutions robs you of your power. How do you do worry? You have to spend time and energy imagining all the things that could go wrong, before they even go wrong.
When you could have spent all that time and energy thinking about how it could have worked out instead.
5) Procrastination.
Putting off things you could have done and chucking them on a growing pile of to-do lists only adds to the clutter and worry in your life. Imagine having a to-do on your mind that could have been done…6 weeks ago. And it’s still lingering at the back of your mind, now.
If it takes less than 2 minutes to do, polish it off! If not, dump it, stuff it and deal it.
6) Jealousy.
When would you be jealous of someone with a vanilla ice-cream cone? When you tell yourself that someone else has it better than you and you’ll never ever have it as good. Would you still feel jealous if you owned a Ben & Jerry’s store and could have all the ice-cream you ever wanted?
The trick is to realize that your worth and your ability to make things happen isn’t deducted when you see someone else having it good. It’s in your belief in yourself and your belief that you can learn, grow and achieve.
7) A Weak Identity.
Of all 7, this is the deepest wound. Do you have a strong sense of who you are, what you stand for and what you want to do in the world? Until you do, you’ll be who others say you are, be swayed by the opinions of others and do what you’re expected to do.
Of all 7, this is also the most profound change you can make in your life. Who are you at your noblest self? What does your noblest self stand for and believe in? And what does your noblest self want to change in the world?
May 29th, 2007 at 12:37 am
You are absolutely right. If you ever have such negative thoughts, you will continue to send negative energy into your life and you will attract more negative events, people and experiences. And the cycle goes on.
What I did for my life to change around is I
1) change my thoughts from lack to abundance
2) Plug in soundwave music (called Attraction Accelerator) every night to increase my focus and visualization
Within 3 weeks, I am having results from my vision board.
Really amazing. So don’t procasinate, it will harm you much more. Listen to what my Stephen Pierce shares about his life make a lot of senses to me.
secretofunlimitedprosperity.com/19/
attraction-accelerator-a-word-from-the-creator/
Cheers
Karen
May 29th, 2007 at 6:31 pm
Great post Alvin.
It’s amazing isn’t it how large an impact these things really have on our lives. They are all quite simple, but very difficult to get rid of.
Then again… just imagine if we could remove these things from our life! It’s possible, and I say definitely worth it.
Matthew
http://www.InspirationToAchieve.com
June 3rd, 2007 at 4:30 pm
Very interesting article, I’ve done quite a few articles on dealing with the first item on the list, clutter, which might be of interest.
Organize IT
June 15th, 2007 at 9:17 pm
Those are 7 powerful wounds I deal Mostly with the first one in my line of work. People need to hear these words so they can deal with them.
Thanks
Spiritual Teamwork
June 17th, 2007 at 6:16 am
Great article!
By the way, to solve the last problem, I used Wu Wei.
Turned my intellectual-analytical part of the brain off to live now, found my connections and then jut took a peace of paper and wrote everything about what I am, without thinking… just what I felt.
It turned out pretty a big list of problems.
June 18th, 2007 at 9:16 pm
You seem to use a lot of eastern philosophy in your personal development ShinobiTeNo
June 20th, 2007 at 4:31 am
Actually, it isn’t a lot… I combine both of them, cause they depict the same reality, found around EVERYONE.
Its just about awareness.
Thanks, Alvin!