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Does your self-esteem feel more like a beat-up truck or a finely-tuned Ferrari?

Self-esteem has been defined as the feelings of love, self-worth and capability you have towards yourself. If your self-esteem has been taking hits, how do you give it a much-needed boost?

Align Your Internal Allies

Are you fighting yourself? People with high self-esteem have more inner allies than inner enemies, they direct their inner resources to focus on more positives than negatives. They do this by having:

1) Positive self-talk.

Instead of having inner nags, they have inner cheerleaders.

2) Positive beliefs.

They foster and build beliefs that help them have hope for the future, a sense of capability and responsibility, and a sense of self-worth and belonging.

3 Steps To Give Your Self-Esteem A Boost

Here’s a technique to give your self-esteem a boost. Set at least 10 minutes of uninterrupted time for yourself to do this.

1) Roll out some writing material.

Pen and paper if that’s your medium, you can even use a computer if that’s more comfortable for you.

2) Imagine looking at yourself from the point of view of someone who loves you.

Pick someone in your life whom you know absolutely loves you. Look at yourself from her eyes, hear yourself from her ears and feel what she feels about you from her most loving place.

3) Write about you from this person’s point of view.

As this person who loves you deeply, write about yourself in the third-person. Write about what this person loves most about you, why, and all the wonderful things she notices about you that you don’t pay enough attention to.

Prepare for some pleasant surprises

More Tips To Boost Your Self-Esteem

1) Forgive yourself when you err.

Be your own internal cheerleader. Everybody makes mistakes, but a person with low self-esteem tends to hold the blame longer and rake themselves over far too much. A person with high self-esteem recognizes that everybody makes mistakes, it’s better to learn from it and move on.

2) Pat yourself on the back.

Notice when you do good things and give yourself points for them. A person with low self-esteem notices more negatives and ignores the positives about herself than someone with high self-esteem.

Everyone has the good, the bad and the sexy in them. Whichever you choose to give your attention to will grow, and the more you focus on your own unique positives, the higher you’ll esteem yourself.

Know that you’re a capable person who deserves all the happiness you want. Even if you don’t feel like that at the moment, it’s not because you’re not, it’s because you haven’t discovered yet just how you are.