Thu, Dec 28, 2006
I’m going through a rough patch right now, but without going into the details I’m going to take my own advice from 9 Keys to Overcoming Difficult Times plus number 10: take it easy.
I’ll be on a short hiatus and will be publishing Uncle Paiboon’s posts in the meantime.
Alvin Soon - who has written 458 posts on Life Coaches Blog.
Alvin has been a personal development coach and is the founder of Life Coaches Blog. He now writes full-time and keeps a personal blog at 21 Dragons.
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December 28th, 2006 at 4:56 pm
Hi! Alvin,
All of us will go thru a rough patch somehow or other. It’s a matter of how we want to deal with it. I am sure after overcoming your rough patch, you will be a better and stronger person.
Whatever it is, I wish you all the best especially for the New Year! Take care!
kh
December 29th, 2006 at 1:23 am
Hey Alvin,
Sorry to hear you’re going through a rough patch. I find that a hiatus and change of scenery, a bit of travel, etc, helps me. I’m kind of in a “what the heck am I doing” and “I’m losing the faith” place myself, feeling drained, and not seeing an immediate way out. Not sure if you’re going through something similar, but at least you’re not alone.
Anyway, I’m really glad to have made your acquaintance this year, so I wish you a heartfelt happy new year as well!
December 29th, 2006 at 7:22 am
Hi Alvin – I really appreciate and admire your authentic sharing about going through a tough time. I think as coaches, it’s tempting to shield our own struggles and “long night of the souls”.
You are walking the talk about engaging your “disquiet”. You know that is where the growth is. Thanks fo sharing what you will use to support yourself on your journey – those are great tools.
I know you know – but just in case, don’t forget to ask for help and recieve that gift. Please count me in as another place of support.
May you travel well,
Dave
December 30th, 2006 at 4:59 am
I have lurked around here a bit. I want to wish you a Happy New Year and also send my sincere prayers and wishes for you to overcome this tough period quickly. Thank you for enriching my life immensely. I now try to record my magical moments and keep a gratitude journal.
December 31st, 2006 at 4:25 pm
If you’re reading this during your short break Alvin, do know that you are now situated at the lower part of the cycle.
That only means you are getting ready to jump back up and leap forth, with renewed strength and vigour.
All the best and yes, support is here if you want it.
Happy New Year!
Cheers
December 31st, 2006 at 9:05 pm
Thank you all for your kind words of encouragement. Right now things are really tough for me – I’m going through all sorts of emotions now, feeling very confused. I hope to see the light soon, and come back stronger.
January 1st, 2007 at 8:06 am
Alvin, you can talk to one of us. We are fellow life coaches and friends to top it off.
Sometimes I find it helpful to put emotions aside just to get a bearing.
After spending enough time at feeling confused and distraught, take a time-out: just for the next 10 minutes, choose to be your normal cool self or someone else you know whom you think will handle your situation better than you.
Then you can do some of that solution-focused stuff…good thing about it is that you don’t have to disregard your feelings while you are at it.
What do you want (in positive terms)?
Where are you now?
What is useful now…to get to your outcome?
What is one thing you can do now to make you feel better?
Do it now.
What is the one thing that will cause all other wheels to turn towards resolution?
What do you commit to do about it?
Define 1st Action Step.
Keep feeling better.
Call me, if you don’t wanna do this step-by-step thingy, you know my strongest suite is all the unconscious shit. It’ll start to sort itself out even before you are thinking of calling me now.
January 8th, 2007 at 9:09 pm
Thanks for the concern, you guys made my day
And thanks Pete, those are very useful questions that helped me make a shift. You should do a post on them…I think they can help people more than myself.
September 9th, 2007 at 1:07 am
Everyone goes through a rough patch in his/her lives.
It is how our attitude which determine the end result of this.
We can come out stronger, or we may just want to walk away from the challenges. Whatever your choice is,
Stay Happy and life is short… sometimes, we just get too bogged down with too much worries, concerns and perhaps too mindful of how and what others look at us.
As long as we know what we really want in our lives, go fight for it, and stay true to what you want.
September 9th, 2007 at 10:47 am
Thanks Ivy! That’s good advice