Best personal development resources for the week:
Paul reveals how with effort and inner-strength, you can be good at almost anything, all you have to do is be prepared to feel confused, scared, like an impostor, be humiliated by the insiders, bored, like it’s all too hard.
Scary? Yup. Read more to find out how they can actually be good for you.
Engaging the Disquiet has the answer to what are the 5 things a woman wants in a man.
Desire #1- Show leadership
Desire #2 – Make decisions
Desire #3 – Take responsibility
Desire #4 – Be strong
Desire #5 – Be manly
I wonder what our dating specialist Kloudiia would say? 
Ever wondered what hypnosis is? Scott Adams (yes, of Dilbert fame) gives you a succinct and easily understood answer in Who Can’t Be Hypnotized?
And Michael Fortin tells us the importance of having an environment with people that nurture and support you, and the difference between a mastermind group that does and one that doesn’t.
November 26th, 2006 at 8:17 pm
Yes, we do desire men with all those desirabilities
May I add one more?
Desire #6 – Be sensitive
Are guys hating me already??
November 26th, 2006 at 8:23 pm
Good suggestion!
No, we don’t, Kloudiia, that would be impossible
November 27th, 2006 at 1:13 am
Hey there fellow 9rulers
Thanks for visiting.
OK, there are some women that wants that from a man, but that’s not really the whole truth.
I disagree with these points as long as it’s not equally as my own as a woman in that relationship with that man. And I’m not talking about feminism here. I like men to be men and women to be women.
But the YEARS (lol) have learned me that the best relationship is based on an equally ground to stand on for both.
I prefer a man that is himself, not necessary so manly guy.
Communication is EVERYTHING. If we can’t talk to the each other and get our messages through – what’s the point?
He don’t have to show leadership – WE BOTH DO TOGETHER.
He don’t have to make decisions – WE BOTH DO TOGETHER.
He does have to take responsibility for his own acts as well as us together for everything in our lifes.
He doesn’t have to be especially strong. WE become strong together.
He does have to be honest though – both of us – to ourselves too. It won’t work otherwise.
Besides that, you cant’ go around thinking: “my dream man or dream woman should be like that or that”. If we do, we’ll soon be aware of that we’re wasting our time. These relationships will not last.
We can’t decide over Love. Real love just happens and it’s our own responsibility to take care of it.
November 27th, 2006 at 8:32 pm
ha ha Al, my fren likes such type of men too. I think they are called Alpha males or something. Do correct me if I am wrong.
Still, we can’t generalise too much. There are too much variables
November 27th, 2006 at 11:51 pm
Yup Bren, I think those are the perfect characteristics of Alpha males.
Hi Lifecruiser! I love your points, much more salient than the Alpha male desirables
I’m finding that out in my own relationship too, I love having someone who’s independent in her own way, that way we both make the decisions and use both heads and hearts in ways that are better than one.
Being in a relationship does force me to be more and more honest and communicative. I haven’t really articulated these thoughts yet but somehow just being with my girlfriend keeps me honest with myself and with her, otherwise like you said it wouldn’t hurt.
I love your last 2 paragraphs. Very worthy points to ponder over…