Comments on: Secrets of Changing Minds: The Most Important Key http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/10/05/secrets-of-changing-minds-the-most-important-key/ Improve Your Life Wed, 28 Dec 2011 12:44:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Successful Blog - SOB Business Cafe 10-13-06 http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/10/05/secrets-of-changing-minds-the-most-important-key/comment-page-1/#comment-16937 Successful Blog - SOB Business Cafe 10-13-06 Fri, 13 Oct 2006 14:59:40 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/10/05/secrets-of-changing-minds-the-most-important-key/#comment-16937 [...] Life Coaches has a mind-changing secret that they are willing to share. [...] [...] Life Coaches has a mind-changing secret that they are willing to share. [...]

]]> By: Alvin Soon http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/10/05/secrets-of-changing-minds-the-most-important-key/comment-page-1/#comment-16430 Alvin Soon Tue, 10 Oct 2006 10:42:54 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/10/05/secrets-of-changing-minds-the-most-important-key/#comment-16430 Thanks Amit! I'm glad you enjoyed it :) Thanks Amit! I’m glad you enjoyed it :)

]]> By: Amit http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/10/05/secrets-of-changing-minds-the-most-important-key/comment-page-1/#comment-16330 Amit Mon, 09 Oct 2006 15:35:13 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/10/05/secrets-of-changing-minds-the-most-important-key/#comment-16330 I remember doing a similar blog post on this a while back and you're absolutely right that if you're not in a frame of mind whereby you care about the individual and the results then you won't be able to achieve the results that you desire. Great post Alvin! I remember doing a similar blog post on this a while back and you’re absolutely right that if you’re not in a frame of mind whereby you care about the individual and the results then you won’t be able to achieve the results that you desire.

Great post Alvin!

]]> By: Alvin Soon http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/10/05/secrets-of-changing-minds-the-most-important-key/comment-page-1/#comment-16022 Alvin Soon Fri, 06 Oct 2006 01:03:13 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/10/05/secrets-of-changing-minds-the-most-important-key/#comment-16022 Wow! I didn't expect this post to inspire so much discussion. Thanks Pete for chipping in, you always leave delicious little nuggets of wisdom (and no, you're not an NLP encyclopedia...there can be only one! :P) Rachit, I'm proud of your journey as a coach, from a newbie to a leading one. I like what you said about the intent being more important than the junkie, I've found that to be true as well and something I should practice more. Wow! I didn’t expect this post to inspire so much discussion. Thanks Pete for chipping in, you always leave delicious little nuggets of wisdom (and no, you’re not an NLP encyclopedia…there can be only one! :P )

Rachit, I’m proud of your journey as a coach, from a newbie to a leading one. I like what you said about the intent being more important than the junkie, I’ve found that to be true as well and something I should practice more.

]]> By: Pete Tan http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/10/05/secrets-of-changing-minds-the-most-important-key/comment-page-1/#comment-16021 Pete Tan Thu, 05 Oct 2006 23:16:47 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/10/05/secrets-of-changing-minds-the-most-important-key/#comment-16021 All that've been said so far, this post captures the essence and core of how a facilitating coach playing the role of a 'bastard' in a program like Patterns of Excellence (POE) like me can align my best intentions for the participants even while using a very provocative and in-your-face approach: I care enough such that I can be angry and shouting and challenging...not AT the participants but FOR them. Alvin is right when he mentioned that we all have a bullshit-detector and are able to intuitively discern whether we are on the receiving end of congruent and genuine best intentions. Kloudiia, I always believe that I can internalise stuff better when I can teach someone do the same. Also, the Pygmalion Effect of expecting the coaches to be of higher standards is paying off more than I realised. So I guess if the guys started with a great and empowering intention of winning the hearts of the ladies and keep the thoughts of getting laid behind...they stand a higher chance! Rachit...and again and again and again. Junkies to the core...so what? Let's just leave the unenlightened junkies' behinds behind the effective ones...that's right! Left them to the front? Whatever!! All that’ve been said so far, this post captures the essence and core of how a facilitating coach playing the role of a ‘bastard’ in a program like Patterns of Excellence (POE) like me can align my best intentions for the participants even while using a very provocative and in-your-face approach:

I care enough such that I can be angry and shouting and challenging…not AT the participants but FOR them.

Alvin is right when he mentioned that we all have a bullshit-detector and are able to intuitively discern whether we are on the receiving end of congruent and genuine best intentions.

Kloudiia, I always believe that I can internalise stuff better when I can teach someone do the same. Also, the Pygmalion Effect of expecting the coaches to be of higher standards is paying off more than I realised. So I guess if the guys started with a great and empowering intention of winning the hearts of the ladies and keep the thoughts of getting laid behind…they stand a higher chance!

Rachit…and again and again and again. Junkies to the core…so what? Let’s just leave the unenlightened junkies’ behinds behind the effective ones…that’s right! Left them to the front? Whatever!!

]]> By: Rachit http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/10/05/secrets-of-changing-minds-the-most-important-key/comment-page-1/#comment-16007 Rachit Thu, 05 Oct 2006 14:32:53 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/10/05/secrets-of-changing-minds-the-most-important-key/#comment-16007 This post is just so awesome ... I have been thinking about this issue recently too ... And I know Pete mentions this occassionally, but we need to talk about this more and more! I have a just a little coaching experience at PoE, but I have noticed a huge difference in the coaches ever since a year ago when I started my NLP journey. - I remember having coaching groups where all we did was bitch about different participants, and the energy seemed so low. I now realize, that that group lacked the empathy and care required to touch their hearts ... - I remember being in a coaching group where we were all framed up to just assume ... that having the positive intent was the most natural thing we could've done ... and that group turned out to be so positive, so helpful and so effective - And I clearly remember ... Pete & Stuart changing the focus of the coach trainings ... from lots of NLP awareness exercises in the past ... to just being able to perform the coaching with a great intent and helping our participants. And I wish everyone could just follow the simple principles of "caring" and "patience" to help the people around them. But of course, the junkie inside all of us will always look for the latest secrets & techniques of influence ... Just come back to the basics after that, ok? I know I will keep coming back to revise these principles every time I need guidance. This post is just so awesome … I have been thinking about this issue recently too … And I know Pete mentions this occassionally, but we need to talk about this more and more!

I have a just a little coaching experience at PoE, but I have noticed a huge difference in the coaches ever since a year ago when I started my NLP journey.

– I remember having coaching groups where all we did was bitch about different participants, and the energy seemed so low. I now realize, that that group lacked the empathy and care required to touch their hearts …

– I remember being in a coaching group where we were all framed up to just assume … that having the positive intent was the most natural thing we could’ve done … and that group turned out to be so positive, so helpful and so effective

– And I clearly remember … Pete & Stuart changing the focus of the coach trainings … from lots of NLP awareness exercises in the past … to just being able to perform the coaching with a great intent and helping our participants.

And I wish everyone could just follow the simple principles of “caring” and “patience” to help the people around them. But of course, the junkie inside all of us will always look for the latest secrets & techniques of influence …

Just come back to the basics after that, ok? I know I will keep coming back to revise these principles every time I need guidance.

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