Best personal development resources for the week:
Sometimes we say stretch (your personal growth) or die, and for some people it’s literally true; they have to change their lifestyles so they don’t get a second heart attack. But for a lot of people even the risk of death isn’t enough! So what is the secret to lasting change?
The answer is simple; focus on solutions.
“Telling people who are lonely and depressed that they’re going to live longer if they quit smoking or change their diet and lifestyle is not that motivating,” Ornish says. “Who wants to live longer when you’re in chronic emotional pain?”
So instead of trying to motivate them with the “fear of dying,” Ornish reframes the issue. He inspires a new vision of the “joy of living” — convincing them they can feel better, not just live longer. That means enjoying the things that make daily life pleasurable, like making love or even taking long walks without the pain caused by their disease. “Joy is a more powerful motivator than fear,” he says.
Read the fascinating Change or Die for the secrets behind making life-transforming changes stick:
1) Focus on the positives instead of the negatives.
2) Make sweeping changes instead of small ones.
3) Hang around people who are also making the change.
4) Keep exercising those change muscles by continously learning new things.
(found via Senia)
Holidaying Pope criticises overwork. Sounds like good advice for all of us. I know I tend to heap too many things on my plate and only lately have begun to realize that quality R&R is equally as important (found via 43 Folders).
The Happiness Project talks about the importance of being grateful, and how sometimes that means being grateful for the things that aren’t there in ‘Gratitude journals, and the happiness of not having cancer‘.
At last, I’ve found where these delightful banners came from; The Foundation for a Better Life. Hey, if Kermit can do it, so can you.