Comments on: Own Your Words

By: Empowering Links: Week of 17th September - Life Coaches

Empowering Links: Week of 17th September - Life Coaches — Sat, 16 Sep 2006 06:45:04 +0000

[...] 1) Assertiveness; saying what you feel, think and need, is not the same as being agressive, not assuming that the other side can read your mind, and using ‘I’ not ‘you’ statements. [...]

By: Matthew Bennett

Matthew Bennett — Sun, 21 May 2006 10:00:34 +0000

I agree with what you say in this post. I find it very useful if I can catch myself doing this while speaking with friends. Ii is also very interesting to think about what exactly I was saying in that moment and the context I said it in.

By: Julie Poland

Julie Poland — Tue, 09 May 2006 11:00:51 +0000

This post reminded me of a story from a speaker I heard. She was in marriage counseling and her now-ex husband told her in a session that she was an a——. The counselor cautioned the husband that he needed to use “I” statements to take responsibility for his own feelings. He replied, “I FEEL you’re an a——.” I wonder why the marriage didn’t survive???

By: Scott Young

Scott Young — Mon, 08 May 2006 18:13:58 +0000

This is even more true in conflicts. People often use ‘you’ instead of ‘I’ in an argument. When you focus on your feelings rather than the actions of the other party it is far easier to solve disagreements.