Empathy Before Solutions: Conclusion
How will you know when you’re done seeking to understand, and move on to be understood?
Here’s the rub: when you’ve really understood, you’d have had to build good rapport with the other person to do that. And when you’re in rapport with someone, you’ll know.
It’s helpful to think of a conversation like a dance that flows in cycles, instead of a linear movement that can be divided up into segments and chunks. There’s no real first part where you seek first to understand, then a second part which you work to be understood, then the final part where you both summarize and conclude.
Instead, if you think about it as flow, there’ll be times when this cycle of seeking to understand and seeking to be understood will be moving in and out of each other. While you might be spending more time in one than the other at times, sometimes you’ll be dipping into the other and coming back out again, sometimes in sharp, jerky movements, sometimes in smooth, graceful movements.
Respect the process, go with the flow. Lead with the principle, compassion and good intentions, and let the tools flow from there.
Well now let’s hope this help clear up the air about hypnosis.
It’s nothing sneaky or improper. In fact, there’s lots of fun involved! (esp when u see how well it works out)
Yup yup, my fellow Life Coach and trance junkie
I think we’ve both been pretty lucky to have seen the myths of trance busted before our eyes and experienced its wonder first hand.
Nice to see you back commenting here at LCB
I wondered if you have read Derren Brown’s new book ? It has given me a lot of food for thought throwing a whole new light on the “hypnotic experience”.
I once saw him live in UK, he is very well informed regarding goal setting and mind changing approaches. His views on organized religion are a real eye opener, not for the faint hearted!
BTW Nice well thought out site. Well done!
Hypnosis experience shines out like a strong light from your article: Secrets of Changing Minds. Thanks for showing ‘it’s going on all the time!’
Interesting article you got here. Some people may not know it, but when they are conversing with other people they may unconsciously be hypnotizing them.
Great articles. I’m fascinated myself by conversational hypnosis and nlp’s use of structured, embedded commands in language.
Secrets of Changing Minds excellent artical, being a nlp master practitioner we used embedded commands very easy to learn, Example would be as you read this artical im sure you will discover how easly you can learn. Simple but very effective as im sure you relize now.