Comments on: Empathy Before Solutions Part 1

By: How I Just Kept Quiet … And watched that transformation from confused to relieved | Rachit Dayal - "The Website Guy"

Thu, 22 May 2008 14:52:54 +0000

[...] Usually, I’d comment on what he says, sometimes even argue. But today, I just listened and put empathy before solutions. (There’s an excellent post on this by Alvin @ http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/04/20/empathy-before-solutions-part-1/trackback/ ) [...]

By: Alvin

Alvin — Sat, 22 Apr 2006 03:58:24 +0000

I’m an angelic ass

I had a lot of help, Brenda, especially from you guys

By: Han Thon

Han Thon — Fri, 21 Apr 2006 17:31:04 +0000

Screwing someone roughly and making them feel good? That’s simple man! Just say please… An Angel? Far from it Brenda… Far from it. He’s still an ass.

By: brenda

brenda — Fri, 21 Apr 2006 16:18:28 +0000

Yup. I remembered. Super Star Player of w11. Chao Turtle =p . Wonder how you managed to transformed into an angel within such a short time.

By: Alvin

Alvin — Fri, 21 Apr 2006 05:42:35 +0000

Heh heh, after secrets of my dark past, eh?

I remember speaking my mind straight out without considering the feelings of other people. I thought it was more ‘authentic’ to express myself honestly than make the other person feel good.

I’d obviously confused tactlessness for honesty, and hadn’t realized that you could be honestly and elegantly so as well, and that people also tend to listen to feedback more readily when it’s presented in a way that makes them feel good about it.

In other words, I didn’t know that there was an art to screwing someone roughly and making them feel good about it at the same time

By: Han Thon

Han Thon — Thu, 20 Apr 2006 18:52:17 +0000

Care to give some instances of how “Holey” you were?