Get Comfortable Outside Your Comfort Zone

This may a little bit deviate from Alvin’s theme on Gratitude. At the same time, from another angle it’s really related because you should be gratify of all the challenges that is coming into your life.

And that’s reason why you should be comfortable coming out of your comfort zone.

If you remember the earlier post by Alvin on stretching, yes, stretching will get your comfort zone bigger and you should be comfortable with getting stretch.

In this case you just go out of your comfort zone, act comfortably, have all the great fun you can acquire and get your comfort zone bigger. This is what I call “Process Oriented Goal”.

You must have “Process-Oriented Goal” POG to get comfortable outside your comfort zone. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t have “Result-Oriented Goal” ROG what I saying here is to add “Process-Oriented Goal” too.

“Result-Oriented Goal” makes you stretch, give you stress and uncomfortable which will leads to vision, focus and expand your mind.  Traditional Push and Pull Forces

“Process-Oriented Goal” brings you joy, happiness, comfortable and ease of doing it.  Stabilizing factor to balance the Push and Pull Forces

Set ROG and make sure POG is in place, then forget about ROG and focus POG and you will get to ROG in no time.

ROG: I have to reduce 10 Kg before Valentine Day
POG: I can enjoy jogging with my dog every morning.

ROG: I need to earn $1,000,000 in 3 years
POG: I learn to love what I have, who I am and what I do every single moment.

I learnt this hard way; because when I weighted 106 kg, I’ve been “TRYING” very hard to reduce weight…it took me 12 months to reduced to 97 kg. But once I apply POG, I went to 87kg in 5 weeks.

Got the picture?

Like what I always do during my coaching session on fitness or trading with my clients, we will develop the balance approach of POG and ROG.

I encourage you to leave your ROG as a comment and let see how can we set POG to balance the forces.

9 Responses to “Fast and Effective Ways for Coping with Stress”

  1. Julie Melillo
    November 9 2008 at 5:50 am #

    I really enjoyed this post. It’s easy to forget how powerful our physical reactions are! I like your approach here. Especially reminding the reader that we are not always ready for change — though we think we are! I agree that the real failure is letting fear stop us. Thanks for posting this!

  2. karen parsons
    November 9 2008 at 6:46 pm #

    Hi Julie,

    Thank you for your kind words. I am glad it was helpful! “Coping with Stress” is a part of a series of articles on Stress that I have written, hopefully Life Coaches Blog will be posting the rest. So keep in touch!

    Kindest regards,


  3. Jill R.
    November 10 2008 at 6:55 am #

    This is a great article. I especially like the list of symptoms… some of which a lot of people may not recognize as a sign of stress.

    It’s also important to continue with your stress managment activities even when there are no signs or symptoms of stress. Doing this will help you become stressed less often and ward off stress before it even begins.

  4. karen parsons
    November 10 2008 at 5:48 pm #

    Hi Jill,

    Absolutely, it should be a way of life! Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts.

    Kindest regards,


  5. yvonne
    July 1 2009 at 10:36 pm #

    Great site!!!!! Good health is very important with the high cost of medical coverage. We need to have a healther lifestyle by taking care of our health eating and exercising. I am a cancer survivor and I know. Our health is our greatest asset. Keep up the Good Work!!!!!

  6. Rev. Dr. Bush
    January 16 2010 at 1:03 pm #

    The physical body does not differentiate between happy stress and overwhelm. Stress is stress. We need to develop coping mechanisms in our daily life to avoid the harmful, physiological effects of stress.


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