Comments on: A PONDering Moment in Evolution http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/01/13/a-pondering-moment-in-evolution/ Improve Your Life Thu, 18 Mar 2010 23:06:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: exsmoker http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/01/13/a-pondering-moment-in-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-121250 exsmoker Wed, 26 Sep 2007 10:55:30 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/?p=123#comment-121250 Hello All, I was reading around some of the posts here and I found interesting things that you guys talk about, I just made a blog about quitting smoking resources and ideas that you might want to check out. If someone is interested in this topic just go to; http://endthehabitnow.blogspot.com and let me know what you think. Thanks in advance. Hello All,

I was reading around some of the posts here and I found interesting things that you guys talk about, I just made a blog about quitting smoking resources and ideas that you might want to check out.
If someone is interested in this topic just go to; http://endthehabitnow.blogspot.com and let me know what you think.
Thanks in advance.

]]> By: Kim http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/01/13/a-pondering-moment-in-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-3855 Kim Fri, 02 Jun 2006 22:25:25 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/?p=123#comment-3855 <strong>Kim</strong> Looks like your page was heavily hit by spam Kim

Looks like your page was heavily hit by spam

]]> By: jeslyn http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/01/13/a-pondering-moment-in-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-612 jeslyn Wed, 18 Jan 2006 19:22:04 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/?p=123#comment-612 Thanks for the analogy. I think i see things better when u give me a specific example. So i guess if u have no inclination to move anywhere, then u just stay the way u are. Ha Thanks for the analogy. I think i see things better when u give me a specific example. So i guess if u have no inclination to move anywhere, then u just stay the way u are. Ha

]]> By: Alvin http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/01/13/a-pondering-moment-in-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-611 Alvin Wed, 18 Jan 2006 06:14:39 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/?p=123#comment-611 Jes, you can go back to the old pain and pleasure model, it's the one that I've found makes the most sense and is the easiest way to explain secondary gain. People can want to change but if they attach more pain to it and more pleasure if they stay the same they won't want to. The thing is that pain and pleasure aren't always immediately obvious. A person who wants to quit smoking, for example, might want to because he feels afraid of the potential health problems (pain). But unconsciously he might smoke to help him relax (pleasure) and it outweighs the pain he currently feels. That's an example of secondary gain. But it really all depends on what you attach meaning to. Some people get a kick out of moving out of comfort zones all the time...they've taught themselves that the eventual pleasure of the change they make far outweighs any present pain they might experience. An athelete like yourself would understand ;) Jes, you can go back to the old pain and pleasure model, it’s the one that I’ve found makes the most sense and is the easiest way to explain secondary gain.

People can want to change but if they attach more pain to it and more pleasure if they stay the same they won’t want to.

The thing is that pain and pleasure aren’t always immediately obvious.

A person who wants to quit smoking, for example, might want to because he feels afraid of the potential health problems (pain). But unconsciously he might smoke to help him relax (pleasure) and it outweighs the pain he currently feels.

That’s an example of secondary gain.

But it really all depends on what you attach meaning to. Some people get a kick out of moving out of comfort zones all the time…they’ve taught themselves that the eventual pleasure of the change they make far outweighs any present pain they might experience.

An athelete like yourself would understand ;)

]]> By: Pete http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/01/13/a-pondering-moment-in-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-608 Pete Mon, 16 Jan 2006 18:18:29 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/?p=123#comment-608 Yes I agree. We see that a lot with the work we do with people. I'll be dealing with Change in my next post. Yes I agree. We see that a lot with the work we do with people.

I’ll be dealing with Change in my next post.

]]> By: jeslyn http://lifecoachesblog.com/2006/01/13/a-pondering-moment-in-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-607 jeslyn Mon, 16 Jan 2006 17:28:07 +0000 http://lifecoachesblog.com/?p=123#comment-607 I've always thought that people stayed in their comfort zone cause they were so comfortable and used to it. If a person is discontented, would't the person naturally want to get out of their comfort zone? It would be a struggle between being unhappy and discontented versus staying where you are and being comfortable with your surroundings that determine whether change takes place? I’ve always thought that people stayed in their comfort zone cause they were so comfortable and used to it. If a person is discontented, would’t the person naturally want to get out of their comfort zone?
It would be a struggle between being unhappy and discontented versus staying where you are and being comfortable with your surroundings that determine whether change takes place?

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