Directions vs Goals

Since we’re nearing the new year I’m sure many of us will be taking this chance to reflect on the year past and renew on the year ahead. I thought this would be a nice time to make a distinction between setting goals, and setting directions.

What is a goal? Simply put, a goal is a target you set that is:

Specific

Measurable

Achievable

Realistic

Time-bound

(SMART)

For example, I want to make $5000 (specific and measurable) a month by June ’06 (time-bound) through my sales job (how it is achievable), which is double my current salary (realistic).

Counterexample, I want to make lots and lots of money (unspecific, unmeasurable) in 2006 (not time-bound, when specifically), even though I’m not sure how (how is it achievable?). It’d be nice to make millions, even though I’m kinda jobless now (realistic?).

And a goal must always be something you want ($5000), not something you don’t want (not lose $5000).

The bottom line is; if there’s no plan, and no measure, it’s not a goal, just a pipe-dream.

Now, setting a direction is a whole different animal. The criteria of a direction is the opposite of a goal. A direction is:

General

Unmeasurable

Achievable

Realistic

Not time-bound

(no smart acronyms here, pun not intended, sorry Paiboon)

For example, a direction I want to set in 2006 might be to be more courageous.

A goal is your road, but a direction is your compass. The 2 compliment each other, and if you have a general direction, for example to be more courageous, you can set goals that will challenge your courage, like to sky-dive in Feb, which is more specific. And when you encounter a new goal which you aren’t sure you want to slot in, you can check in to see if it fits in with your direction.

My direction in 2006 is to live vivaciously and courageously, and experience life to its fullest, increasing the love, wisdom and wealth in my life.

My coach’s challenge to you is to quickly, off the top of your head, answer this question:

What’s your direction for 2006?

And write down the first thing that comes to mind in the comments below, thereby making it more real now and without hesitation.

9 Responses to “Fast and Effective Ways for Coping with Stress”

  1. Julie Melillo
    November 9 2008 at 5:50 am #

    I really enjoyed this post. It’s easy to forget how powerful our physical reactions are! I like your approach here. Especially reminding the reader that we are not always ready for change — though we think we are! I agree that the real failure is letting fear stop us. Thanks for posting this!

  2. karen parsons
    November 9 2008 at 6:46 pm #

    Hi Julie,

    Thank you for your kind words. I am glad it was helpful! “Coping with Stress” is a part of a series of articles on Stress that I have written, hopefully Life Coaches Blog will be posting the rest. So keep in touch!

    Kindest regards,

    Karen

  3. Jill R.
    November 10 2008 at 6:55 am #

    This is a great article. I especially like the list of symptoms… some of which a lot of people may not recognize as a sign of stress.

    It’s also important to continue with your stress managment activities even when there are no signs or symptoms of stress. Doing this will help you become stressed less often and ward off stress before it even begins.

  4. karen parsons
    November 10 2008 at 5:48 pm #

    Hi Jill,

    Absolutely, it should be a way of life! Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts.

    Kindest regards,

    Karen

  5. yvonne
    July 1 2009 at 10:36 pm #

    Hi,
    Great site!!!!! Good health is very important with the high cost of medical coverage. We need to have a healther lifestyle by taking care of our health eating and exercising. I am a cancer survivor and I know. Our health is our greatest asset. Keep up the Good Work!!!!!

  6. Rev. Dr. Bush
    January 16 2010 at 1:03 pm #

    The physical body does not differentiate between happy stress and overwhelm. Stress is stress. We need to develop coping mechanisms in our daily life to avoid the harmful, physiological effects of stress.

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