MHE always have the belief that all his clients have “done all they possibly could” before coming to him and he is aware that most people was actually BREAKING RAPPORT with the woman in the case when they responded in the opposite direction how she is describing herself.

IMO, MHE saw the highest positive intention for the lady (the fact she was attracting attention to herself with that hideous polka-dotted green dress) was for people around her to be CONGRUENT with how she views herself in her MOW (model of the world aka Map of her Territory) even though it’s a twisted form of acceptance that she craved.

It was a paradoxical intention on her part and Milton expanded his MOW to include hers and once the idea of acceptance is established, she found that she can start the process of change when she cannot previously do so.

1.
1. A relationship or an affinity between people or things in which whatever affects one correspondingly affects the other.

2. Mutual understanding or affection arising from this relationship or affinity.

2.
1. The act or power of sharing the feelings of another.

2. A feeling or an expression of pity or sorrow for the distress of another; compassion or commiseration. Often used in the plural. See Synonyms at pity.

3. Harmonious agreement; accord: He is in sympathy with their beliefs.

4. A feeling of loyalty; allegiance. Often used in the plural: His sympathies lie with his family.

5. Physiology. A relation between parts or organs by which a disease or disorder in one induces an effect in the other.

P.S. I can imagine how Richard would say it

That’s one of leadership quality you must have.

How to practice “Sympathy”? wait for my next post coming soon !!!

PS: Richard Bandler has mentioned in his recently seminar that “Rapport is not about getting other people to trust you, but it is about getting the person to trust themselves”

PPS: Btw, that wasn’t Richard’s exact phase, You know how is it going to sound like when he uses vulgarity here and there.