Comments on: Making others feel good for No Good Reason

By: young weezy

young weezy — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 22:32:43 +0000

this blog is lame

By: Pete

Pete — Wed, 23 Nov 2005 17:59:08 +0000

There’s a ‘code of silence’ in the lift in Singapore. I wonder about other parts of the world. When I remember to do so, I’ll not avert my eyes from people who share my few minutes in a lift.

I don’t have to make a sales pitch or anything. I usually meet the gaze of anyone in the lift and smile.

It doesn’t take much and I do wonder if people feel too weird about it.

By: Tracey

Tracey — Wed, 23 Nov 2005 16:37:53 +0000

I agree that a smile to someone does make a difference. I believe that a smile will warm someone’s heart. A smile can make someone feels good. A smile is also a way to break the ice with stranger.

I’ll always smile to myself every morning when I see my reflection in the mirror. It simply works for me! Feeling good for NGR.

By: Pete

Pete — Mon, 21 Nov 2005 09:05:21 +0000

With what Alvin have said and tas totally distorting my point (for this I take responsibility for the meaning of my communication), I’m going to address all these in my next post:

The Compelling Logic Behind No Good Reason.

tas, it’s not about the absence of a good reason for the person when you shift him out of the spot that he’s in. “Hey I want you to find no good reason for getting out of your troubled mode” (!!)

What I mean is, if you intend for someone to feel good, you don’t need a compellingly good and apparent reason to do so. There’s no good reason required for you to empower someone.

All that you have mentioned, whether cracking jokes or dis-association are pattern interrupts in their own rights.

The purpose of breaking your subject’s ‘troubled’ state is plain and simple so that he can find a resolution without having to keep reinforcing the negative state.

Like I say, I will reinforce all these points in my next post.

By: tas

tas — Mon, 21 Nov 2005 03:55:44 +0000

how can you make someone who is troubled to feel good for no good reason?
dis-associate them? like cracking joke, or pattern interrupt?
I’ve tested it out, well it worked for the moment but not for long. Any suggestions to how to make a troubled person to feel good for no good reason?

By: Alvin

Alvin — Mon, 21 Nov 2005 03:25:19 +0000

Yep Pete, I agree. Making people feel good for no good reason has been a core foundation of who I am for a long time, which is why I keep sharpening my humour and rapport skills.

I’ve found that with good rapport, humour used artfully can be used to diffuse almost anything.

The next challenge I’m still grappling this is to extend this good-humourness and sense of caring to complete strangers, and making the first caring move towards them.