The past 2 installments of the No Good Reason (NGR) series carried you through AA (Attitude Adjustment) to handle your negativity and the apparent reason for NGR. The next AA is something you can take much further and it is more than just positive habit forming.
Let me bring the end to the front by stating for a fact that this AA is about being congruent. If you don’t see the benefit of expanding your awareness and don’t buy into the concept of contribution as a means of receiving, you can skip this post.
Read on.
The following coaching process takes you through the NLP Neuro-logical Level so that you can realign yourself to this AA:
Think of the last time you feel good on the receiving end of a kind word, a good intention or a benevolent albeit small deed.
Step out of yourself and take the position of the person administering it. Ask yourself:
How good does it feel to be you? Did you have to go out of your way to do it? Shut out the negative voice like so and access the core of your being. Your being small doesn’t serve the world. When you feel an inkling of something approaching a stirring to affect the people and environment around you with goodness knowing that it will come back to you, embrace it.
Congratulations, you have just expanded your awareness. The Collective Consciousness stands to gain and give you what you have manifested positively. Think GIGO!!
Simple…yet profound in it’s own way, right?
How many times do we lament that the world has too much negativity? All these lousy thoughts and feelings cordon off the good stuff that are coming into our lives. Flowers attract bees and we get honey. What attracts flies and cockroaches? What I think is reality, will be. How I act is manifested in what I receive. Who I see myself as will determine how I interact with the world at large.
So smile when you meet the eyes of a stranger. Address the waiter serving you by his name. Make someone’s day. Say a kind word to someone who doesn’t ask for it. Appreciate your boss even when she is mean (find her positive intention). Over-deliver good service.
You don’t have to think what’s-in-it-for-me? You don’t have to be mean just to make your point. You don’t have to care less.
Make others feel good for No Good Reason…for the attitude alone is reason enough. It makes you congruent with the things you want in your life that you can start to attract them.
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We ask ourselves, who am I to be Brilliant, Gorgeous, Talented, and Fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
Thank you, Marianne Williamson!
And who are you not to start the good things rolling first?
Thoughts?
November 21st, 2005 at 12:00 am
like starting off with a clear and good intention in mind that even the unexpected happened, can take a minute to stand on the meta view seeing things allow new findings and learn to feel good and keep moving forward?? =P
November 21st, 2005 at 4:42 am
Looks like you are making your comments based on the apparent reason of NGR. Thanks to pointing out another compelling reason for NGR.
Maybe if I use the title “Making others feel good without a reason” it may be clearer to you. The essence of this post is about how you relate to others. =P
November 21st, 2005 at 11:25 am
Yep Pete, I agree. Making people feel good for no good reason has been a core foundation of who I am for a long time, which is why I keep sharpening my humour and rapport skills.
I’ve found that with good rapport, humour used artfully can be used to diffuse almost anything.
The next challenge I’m still grappling this is to extend this good-humourness and sense of caring to complete strangers, and making the first caring move towards them.
November 21st, 2005 at 11:55 am
how can you make someone who is troubled to feel good for no good reason?
dis-associate them? like cracking joke, or pattern interrupt?
I’ve tested it out, well it worked for the moment but not for long. Any suggestions to how to make a troubled person to feel good for no good reason?
November 21st, 2005 at 5:05 pm
With what Alvin have said and tas totally distorting my point (for this I take responsibility for the meaning of my communication), I’m going to address all these in my next post:
The Compelling Logic Behind No Good Reason.
tas, it’s not about the absence of a good reason for the person when you shift him out of the spot that he’s in. “Hey I want you to find no good reason for getting out of your troubled mode” (!!)
What I mean is, if you intend for someone to feel good, you don’t need a compellingly good and apparent reason to do so. There’s no good reason required for you to empower someone.
All that you have mentioned, whether cracking jokes or dis-association are pattern interrupts in their own rights.
The purpose of breaking your subject’s ‘troubled’ state is plain and simple so that he can find a resolution without having to keep reinforcing the negative state.
Like I say, I will reinforce all these points in my next post.
November 24th, 2005 at 12:37 am
I agree that a smile to someone does make a difference. I believe that a smile will warm someone’s heart. A smile can make someone feels good. A smile is also a way to break the ice with stranger.
I’ll always smile to myself every morning when I see my reflection in the mirror. It simply works for me! Feeling good for NGR.
November 24th, 2005 at 1:59 am
There’s a ‘code of silence’ in the lift in Singapore. I wonder about other parts of the world. When I remember to do so, I’ll not avert my eyes from people who share my few minutes in a lift.
I don’t have to make a sales pitch or anything. I usually meet the gaze of anyone in the lift and smile.
It doesn’t take much and I do wonder if people feel too weird about it.