The 10 Secrets of a Master Networker

There’s this article over at Inc.com that I really like called “The 10 Secrets of a Master Networker“, where reknown networker Keith Ferrazzi shares his secrets with Inc.com’s reporter.

The thing that really struck me about this article is how much it makes networking sound like fun. Now, I’m not the best person to make small talk, in fact, I hate it sometimes, but I’ve grown to realize the importance of knowing people, and building a strong network of not just colleagues, but friends and family around you.

A couple of his 10 secrets that I especially like:

Rule 7: Always ask.

My uncle was the first one who told me this, and Keith echoes it; “…it never hurts to ask. The worst anyone can say is no. Not many people believe that. Embarrassment and fear are debilitating.”

How true!

I can remember some of the best rewards I’ve gotten were from times when I put myself on the line and just asked, swallowing my fears of rejection. And so far, the times it’s paid off have more than made up for the times when I’ve been rejected.

Rule 9: Ping constantly.

He’s borrowing a computer term, it just means to reach out and constantly stay in touch with people, even if it’s just a short email or phone call. I really like this one, and I’ve been putting it to practice ever since I read this article. For those of you wondering why you’ve suddenly been recieving SMSes from me, this is why.

But the best thing out of this article for me is this:

“Superficiality is not networking. There are people who have lots of superficial connections, and people call that networking. But that’s not successful. You feel dirty when you talk to someone like that. The outcome of good networking is the capacity to have a conversation with anyone you want to have a conversation with and then to leave that conversation with a lasting connection of some sort.”

There’s often a feeling of sleeze and an image of fakeness connected with networking, but Keith seems to have a much more sincere take on it, and that’s something I can admire, and I think we can all learn from.

21 Responses to “Secrets of Changing Minds: Giving Hypnotic Commands”

  1. Yezhong
    September 14 2006 at 5:23 pm #

    Well now let’s hope this help clear up the air about hypnosis.
    It’s nothing sneaky or improper. In fact, there’s lots of fun involved! (esp when u see how well it works out) :)

  2. Alvin Soon
    September 14 2006 at 9:11 pm #

    Yup yup, my fellow Life Coach and trance junkie :D I think we’ve both been pretty lucky to have seen the myths of trance busted before our eyes and experienced its wonder first hand.

    Nice to see you back commenting here at LCB :)

  3. hypno101
    March 9 2007 at 8:47 pm #

    I wondered if you have read Derren Brown’s new book ? It has given me a lot of food for thought throwing a whole new light on the “hypnotic experience”.

    I once saw him live in UK, he is very well informed regarding goal setting and mind changing approaches. His views on organized religion are a real eye opener, not for the faint hearted!

    BTW Nice well thought out site. Well done!

  4. Geoff Dodd
    April 6 2007 at 9:22 pm #

    Hypnosis experience shines out like a strong light from your article: Secrets of Changing Minds. Thanks for showing ‘it’s going on all the time!’

  5. Brisbane Hypnotherapy Centre
    July 18 2008 at 10:25 am #

    Interesting article you got here. Some people may not know it, but when they are conversing with other people they may unconsciously be hypnotizing them.

  6. Glenn
    October 7 2008 at 1:01 pm #

    Great articles. I’m fascinated myself by conversational hypnosis and nlp’s use of structured, embedded commands in language.

  7. Hypnosis
    July 20 2009 at 9:31 pm #

    Secrets of Changing Minds excellent artical, being a nlp master practitioner we used embedded commands very easy to learn, Example would be as you read this artical im sure you will discover how easly you can learn. Simple but very effective as im sure you relize now.

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